Pros and cons of dating your neighbor
Today I’m going to tackle a subject here that is intrinsic to a meeting of cultures here in the Philippines.And that subject is the age-difference relationships between Foreign Men and Filipina Ladies. Whether you are reading this as someone with interest in moving to the Philippines, or as a person curious about this sort of relationship, I think you will find yourself challenged to keep an open mind about this.she’s not accused of being ‘dependent’ or a ‘gold-digger’. Why so much judgmentalism for one couple and not the other? America has a long-standing history of Christian roots, I’ll grant that. I see and meet young Filipina women here all the time and I’m telling you, when it comes to having their head on straight, being mature, having right priorities..Those roots are evidenced in both our national traditions and even our Constitution. America today is hardly a theocracy that looks to God for guidance either in its politics or its entertainment. Congressmen hardly kneel down in prayer before voting on new legislation in search of God’s guidance. It is what is taught around the kitchen table at meal times. Here in the Philippines, Catholic culture is so embedded in the legislation that to commit Adultery is a legal crime. as a whole, Filipina young ladies blow away most young American girls.But there’s another unspoken side effect to this individualistic, self-sufficient mantra and it echoes something like this when they are older, “.” The only part of American culture I’ve witnessed that contradicts this mentality is found among conservative religions such as Christianity, Mormonism, Jehovah’s Witness, Seventh-Day Adventist and similar Bible based religions which still hold up the values of the Wife who is both a Help Mate to her Husband, yet submissive to his authority and leadership.These days the Wife is practically spit upon by contemporary culture.It is old-school traditions versus new-age feminism. So when I hear about men who come here in their later years, marry a young Filipina who is more than 30 years younger and return to the States only to face ridicule and stigma from American society.. The assumption is that because it doesn’t work in the US, it must not be working anywhere else.
But that’s all assuming that ‘equality’ has anything to do with non-dependence. In a same-age relationship, if the husband works and the wife doesn’t..
People do fall in love, despite differences in race, culture, wealth or age.
It’s not even worth pointing out the times it doesn’t work out because so many same-age relationships end up in divorce that one can’t make the argument that same-age relationships make for better, longer lasting marriages.. However, strangely enough, here in the Philippines..
Being an American myself, I have to say that in 49 years of living in the USA.. wife is in her 20’s and more often than not, very attractive. It’s not like in America where it’s pretty easy to tell the Mothers from the daughters. I want to know what makes their mind and heart ‘tick’. And from what I’ve observed of cultures outside the Philippines and within it here are some trends I have noticed..”.
I probably only saw or knew someone in a May-December relationship perhaps a dozen times. I’m the kind of person that observes and asks a lot of direct questions from people in private. That is great, and I raised my daughter along those lines.
Here, young girls ARE told to esteem the ‘Proverbs 31’ Wife model. Mothers teach their daughters in all strictness that when the day comes that they marry a man, they are to love him faithfully. But as a whole trend, Filipinas by age 17 already know how to keep a clean house, earn money, save money, help raise their baby siblings and have a much higher sense of respect for the authority of their parents. if you expect to date a younger Filipina here, be prepared more often than not to meet with her parents on the first or second date.